This spring not only brought us the worst weather that I can ever remember, it also had brought us some sad news.
In March, we got news that Dennis’ Uncle Darel passed away. He was the oldest sibling to Dennis’ dad, the oldest of nine kids. Uncle Darel lived in Arizona so we only saw him once a year for our annual family reunion in August. But he was a big part of the reunion, almost like the patriarch of the family. He was the auctioneer for our auction, the one that always took charge of the reunion meeting and he always had a camera around his neck.
Uncle Darel, August 2008
When Dennis dad passed away, Uncle Darel made sure that at the family reunion we all took a moment of silence in remembrance of him. At the next family reunion, after Dennis’ grandma (Uncle Darel’s mom) passed away he also had a moment of silence for her. Who would have thought that at last years reunion it would be the last time we hugged Uncle Darel good-bye and that we would be planning a moment of silence in his honor at the next family reunion in August.
Uncle Darel is missed!
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On April 16th, we got news that my Aunt Pauline’s daughter, Danielle was involved in a tragic accident. I guess I should clarify; Pauline was my aunt only in name. She isn’t related to me, she has just been my mom’s friend since they were in grade school. We happened to just call her “aunt” growing up and I guess I never out-grew calling her that. Aunt Pauline is actually my brother Ryan’s godmother. So we always considered her and her husband, Jack, our aunt and uncle.
I hadn’t seen Danielle in a long time. I remember her when she was a baby, in her crib, with a ton of black hair. I was so excited that my aunt had a girl because they already had a boy, Michael. Ryan and Sandy had spent a lot more time with Danielle because they lived in Maine, and I was living here in Idaho.
Please don’t be judgmental for adding this picture of the accident to my blog. I am adding it as a very important reminder, which I will explain.
Danielle’s accident is described, in part, as this according to the Sun-Journal newspaper in Lewiston, Maine:
A Sabattus woman died Friday morning when the SUV she was driving rear-ended a garbage truck at the intersection of Sabattus Street and Randall Road. Danielle Perrier, 33, was traveling west when she crashed into the back of a recycling truck.
A dozen or more fire, rescue and police crews from Auburn, Lewiston and United Ambulance responded to the accident scene shortly after 10:30 a.m. Rescue crews had to dismantle the Ford SUV to extricate Perrier. Her two children — a 3-year-old boy and a 5-year-old girl — suffered minor injuries. They were removed quickly from the vehicle and were treated and released, police said.
While this article is posted on the newspaper web site many people are allowed to add comments to the article, on line for others to read. I, unfortunately, took the time to read several comments. A lot of people were offering condolences but sadly a great majority of people were passing judgment on how Danielle could possibly drive into the back of garbage truck that was stopped.
Though we may never know the exact cause of what happened in that car right before the accident. I do know that she had two small kids (safely) strapped into the back seat. I am well aware how easy it is to be distracted by kids; just by a sneeze, a cry, passing them a toy, or a cup to drink…by just about anything! That is why I have added this picture because I can’t count how many times that I will be driving with Colin and have reached in the back seat to soothe Colin, or hand him a book, or wipe a noise. This type of tragedy can happen to anyone, anytime.
Since this accident I have changed my routine when I have Colin in the car. If he is crying or needs a drink, I have decided that he can wait. Unless he is choking or in dire emergency, in which then I will pull the car over, he can wait until I can safely deal with his issue.
We have since gotten news that Danielle was conscious after the accident, asked about the kids, and found out they were okay before she passed away. I am sure it gave her some peace.
In loving memory: Danielle Perrier ~Give my sister a hug for me, Danielle~
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In March, we got news that Dennis’ step-dad, Garry had been diagnosed with throat cancer. Very fortunately it appears that they have caught the cancer in its early stage. Unfortunately the treatment still seems very invasive. Garry has had to get a “port” implanted in his chest to receive medication. They also had to put a feeding tube in. He will be fed through the feeding tube while he is getting radiation and chemotherapy treatments.
Dennis’ mom, Jackie is doing a wonderful job taking care of him, even though she just had surgery herself, in November, for a total knee replacement.
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Also in March, my mom, fell and fractured her hip! She had taken an overnight gambling excursion to Jackpot, Nevada with some friends. My mom never made it into the casino. As she walked across the parking lot to check into the hotel, she tripped and fell.
Jackpot is a very small town with no hospital. She had to take an ambulance to the nearest hospital, back to Idaho, about 50 miles. She spent the night in the hospital. Then came back home where she had to have physical therapy and follow up with an orthopedic doctor.
When I took mom for her follow-up appointment not only did the MRI show her fracture it also showed that she had arthritis in her hip, no cartilage left in the joint, and a few cysts. The doctor said they would wait for the fracture to heal but then she would need to be scheduled for a complete hip replacement.
Well mom healed well and her surgery was scheduled! (to be continued……)
With Love,
Tina